About me
I'm Bizzy (she/her) — a celebrant who speaks your language.
I came to this work directly through my own community. I live non-monogamy every single day, and know first-hand how glorious it is to step into spaces where you don't have to translate your life. I write ceremonies so nobody ever has to shrink their love, their family, or their identity to fit somebody else's standard script.
Before standing at the front of ceremony spaces holding a script folder, I spent past lives as an actor, a theatre producer, and an executive producer for film. I've spent years mastering the art of storytelling, structure, and performance. I know how to hold a room, honour a narrative, and balance genuine heart with a touch of wit without making it feel like a sterile rehearsal or a forced performance.
Whether you are a progressive couple stepping off the traditional wedding path, an ENM polycule, or part of the LGBTQIA+ community, you are in familiar territory. You will never be asked to explain your dynamic, justify who is in your ceremony, or smooth over your choices to make a standard script fit.
What you get instead: unhurried conversations, a script written entirely for you, symbolic rituals built around your real story, and someone at the front of the room who is genuinely delighted by how you choose to build your life.
What to expect when we work together
Here is how we turn your story into a ceremony:
The Virtual Chat
Free & Low-Pressure
We’ll jump on a 30-minute video call to say hello, talk about your vision, and see if we’re a great fit. You can bring all partners, metamours, or chosen guides involved. Low stakes and low pressure, we’ll have a warm conversation about what you want your day to feel like.
Booking & Payment Plan
Secure Your Date
When you’re ready to lock in your date, we’ll set up your agreement. Payments are kept transparent and manageable using a standard milestone schedule:
- 30% booking retainer to secure your date in my diary
- 40% mid-way milestone when we begin scriptwriting
- 30% final balance due one month before your ceremony
Travel within 50 miles of Bristol is included in your package. If your ceremony is happening further afield, that is no problem at all. We can discuss and agree on any extra travel or accommodation costs at this stage.
The Discovery & Deep-Dive Session
Map Your Story
With your date secured, we’ll hold an unhurried planning session (in person or online). We'll dive into your story, map out your dynamic, choose or invent symbolic rituals, and discuss practicalities like seating, accessibility, and guest comfort. I’ll also send over a flexible questionnaire so everyone involved can share their favorite memories in their own time.
Additional sessions with all partners involved can also be arranged to fully capture the depth and dynamic of your particular relationship - giving everyone space to share memories, in-jokes, or messages of love specific to all of you.
Script Creation & Collaborative Revisions
Built on Your Terms
I take your stories, promises, and agreements and craft a 100% custom script built on your terms. You get full sight of the text with as much fine-tuning as needed - nothing goes into the final script without your total approval. If you're writing custom vows, I can help polish them so they balance seamlessly together.
Optional Rehearsal
Virtual or In-Person
If you'd like a dry run to calm pre-ceremony jitters or walk through complex multi-partner positioning and ritual mechanics, we can add a rehearsal to your package. We can do this over video call or on-site prior to the big day so everyone - from readers to ritual helpers - feels completely confident.
The Ceremony Day
You Focus on Love
On the day, I arrive early to liaise with your venue, coordinate with your readers or musicians, set up any ritual elements, and make sure everyone feels relaxed. Then, I stand at the front to deliver a warm and joyful ceremony while you focus on being present with the people you love.
Zero “Education Tax” (and always learning)
You never have to defend who you love, justify how you structure your family, or explain your identity just to feel safe during planning.
I know that our language, relationships, and identities are constantly evolving landscapes. I don't pretend to know everything, and I consider myself on an ongoing learning journey alongside our community. But you can start our conversations knowing that these dynamics are welcomed with baseline fluency, curiosity, and care:
- Polycule mapping and intentional metamour inclusion
- Relationship anarchy, solo poly, and non-hierarchical frameworks
- Kitchen-table, parallel, and garden-party poly dynamics
- Trans and non-binary name-claiming and pronoun care
- Queerplatonic, aromantic, and chosen family commitments
- Kink-aware and disability-aware ceremony design
If your dynamic sits outside these bullet points, or if you've coined terms unique to your own bond, I am always ready to listen, learn, and weave your exact reality into a ceremony that fits you perfectly.
Ready to meet?
Let's have a warm, no-pressure conversation about the ceremony you actually want.